Dear Colleagues & Friends,

Alumni for Life is an informal group created for individuals who share a common thread – we have all worked in or currently still working in AIA or AIG group. We have all travelled in the insurance road and as we continue in our journey, life takes on a broader dimension and perspective.

The purpose of the informal group is to provide a platform for communication and network. It can also be a reference station for precious memories of times together. Colleagues who have contributed in sharing their experiences, thoughts, insights and wisdom will undoubtedly provide some elements of encouragement, inspiration and motivation to colleagues and friends.

For a start, the blog contains the introduction and a post on “A Tribute to the late Mr. Lee Kuan Yew, the founder of modern Singapore.


Happy Memories and Reading!
Douglas Cho
May, 2015

Wednesday, 2 September 2015



Success & Significance
  

Some dream about it, some talk about it, some strive for it, while others achieved it!

The consensus is that "Success" means differently to all of us.  As beauty is to the eyes of the beholder, so is success to the mind of the achiever.  It largely depends on our aspirations, convictions, values, and dreams at the various stages of our lives.  Success and significance to some, are intertwined and connected; while others perceived them as separate goals to achieve.  Success tends to be internally focused and intrinsic; while significance tends to be externally oriented and extrinsic.

The following are some brief insights and wisdom from our colleagues on the following:
  • What is success?
  • Is significance important in one's life?
  • Can we achieve both success and significance in our journey in life?

Anna Ho, former Vice President, Group Dept., Home Office, AIA Hong Kong:

Success can simply be defined as achieving a goal or meeting an expectation.  Success can be just a personal matter.  However, if what is involved touches other lives, it becomes significant.  For example, one can do a very successful presentation on a project and gain much applause on oneself.  However, only when the completed project can actually make life much easier for the people concerned will it become significant.

In my journey in life, I do hope to be able to achieve significance by making a positive impact on those around me with what I say and what I do, rather than thinking too much of my own success.  Whether I'm successful or not in my various roles is not for me to say.  However, I can be certain that I have failed many times in my different roles, but have also tried to better myself as time goes by.

As it is said, "Failure is the Mother of Success", true success comes after many failures and with much effort put in.  If a goal is achieved or an expectation is met with just one go, it may be by sheer luck and the success will not last!


Daniel Tan, Group Chief Operating Officer, Acquaint Property Ltd., Australia:

Success: achieving the goals and targets in my life in the areas of family, church, finance, possessions and positions.  In short, what I can achieve materially are temporal.

Significance:  Yes, much more important in this season of my life after having achieved little successes in my life. I am doing things that are meaningful, transforming and lasting.

Seeking significance requires personal sacrifices like being away from family and friends, and the comfortable life in Perth.  The impact of what I am doing here in Singapore cannot be measured immediately but can only be felt after many years to come as I contribute to the company and touch lives that I meet each day.

Significance precedes success!  If I do the thing with significance in mind, success usually follows.  Even if it takes a long time to see the successful outcomes and in some cases, I may not be around to see the results of the efforts put in.  This is what some people called "Leaving a lasting legacy."
  

Vice President, Prudential Assurance Co. Ltd., Singapore: 

I'm not sure if I've achieved it but I've always shrived towards living A Life, rather than two separate lives, a corporate and a personal life.  So success to me is to live a significant and meaningful life.

Even if, to some I'm perceived to be successful at work today, believe it or not I've never dream of corporate success.  In fact, I don't feel successful, rather I feel blessed that it's one of the many stops in my life journey.  My dream is to achieve spiritual success.

So my thought is simple.  One cannot be successful without significance.


Michael Tan, Chief Executive Officer, Great Eastern Life, Vietnam:

Success means different things to different people at different stages of our life journey.  When I was younger starting my career and family, success means personal career achievement, accumulating wealth and material possessions.  Then when you grow older, all these measures of success seem like an illusion.  Today, my success is to work to the best of my ability and to trust God to direct my path with humility and sincerity.

Significance is leaving a legacy - transforming lives; caring for the less unfortunate and needy in society; and being with my family


Dominic Lee, former Chief Actuary, Home Office, AIA Hong Kong;  Lead Coordinator for AIA Alumni Club, Hong Kong:

Most worldly people take success as the procurement of fortune and fame.   I am impressed by a motto from ROC President Chiang Ching-Kuo which states that fortune is defined as the "fortune for the people", while fame is defined as "fame not only for the current generation but for many generations going forward."

As an Actuary, my forte is in numbers and not in words therefore my remarks are terse!

(If numbers can be translated to philanthropy giving, it becomes significant in nature)


 Mack Eng, Country President, ACE Insurance Limited:

Success can be defined in so many ways, and means different things to different people.  Success is doing what you love and doing it well.  Success is also multi-faceted, whether we are 'successful' as a leader at work or home is dependent on the individual's focus. Success at work means not just delivering the results for the organization, but the ability to garner the support of your team at all levels to share your vision and focus: that's always trick since, individuals have different values, principles, backgrounds and priorities.  Success is creating a work environment that can bring out the best in your team - I'm a strong believer in creating a positive, progressive, open, and conducive environment for individuals to collaborate and excel. 

Success in an organization can be defined when teams are able to work well together, which will breed a winning culture and success for a company.  Being a good husband, father, son, brother and friend to family and close friends are what I defined as success as well.  Overarching all this - work, family, and friends is my faith - being true to my Christian faith and belief is the ultimate success I'm striving for - it's work in progress!  When it's all said and done, success is knowing what you want out of life, working towards it and having a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment in whatever you set out to do.

Significance is important, whilst we do what we can, it's not for us to say it is significant but others are the judge of what we do.  Work wise, I've been fortunate to have bosses who have guided and mentored me throughout my career, and given me opportunities.  It's important to pay it forward - I see budding young talent - future leaders in the industry, my way of giving back is to guide, develop and invest in the young talents in our industry.   Contributing to our industry in any way that can pave the way for our future leaders is also critical – it’s not a job requirement but beyond the call of duty.  The sowing of these seeds is a mid to long term play - the significance - only the future will tell.

Success and Significance should go hand in hand - it's what gives meaning to our existence, to know that we have done what we can, left our mark and legacy, and paved the way for others ... we can and we must strive to make a difference.


Lance Tay, Chief Executive Officer, Tokio Marine Life Insurance Singapore Ltd.:
  
Both success and significance can mean different things to different people.  I think it is important that we do not judge people based on our own definition of success as we may not know the goals or aspiration of someone else.  Significance is even harder to pin down as what is meaningful to one may not mean much to another.

Putting definition of these two words aside, it is safe to say that successful leaders would have achieved some level of success and significance in their life.  So it is entirely possible to have achieved both success and significance.

To me what's important is to know what we want out of life and who we want to be.  If we achieve what we set out to do and be the person we want to be, we would have achieved success and significance in our own way.


Timothy Chia, Chairman, Asia, Coutts & Co. Ltd.

Success is subjective and means differently to each individual.  It could be viewed as achievements in the area of career, status, wealth, family, or even spiritual aspirations.

I've been blessed with a wonderful family, good health and have achieved reasonable success in my career and to hopefully return a small part of what I  have taken back to society.

Significance to me is to make a discernible difference in the lives of others, by providing resources in the area of education, medical facilities and research.  Education provides an equalizer for the less fortunate by enhancing their earning capacity and thereby narrowing the income gap.


Chin Chung Wen, Chief Agency Officer, AIA Co. Ltd., Singapore:

Success to me means living a life one can feel proud of.  Two things come in mind.  The first is success in our career, the part of us that's ambitious, that wants to accomplish.  Many will also relate this to having the tangible things in life, position, status, home address, cars, wealth, club membership.  Personally, I think normal people judge someone's success as achieving all these tangibles.  But working hard and wanting to be successful may not mean our desire is to have these tangibles.  Some go for success to provide a better living for the family.

That's where the second comes to mind - success in the area of family ties, friendship, helping others, being a good father, a good son or daughter, unconditional love for the family, making a positive difference in people's lives- the intangibles such as giving love, contentment and happiness.  Success in this area outweighs the first.  People will better remember us in these successes than the successes in the workplace.

There are usually some conflicts between success and significance in today's demanding and hectic work life - chasing after the next promotion or work taking priority than spending time with loved ones.  Likewise, it may not be easy to do well in work when the focus is on family and friends.  Some jobs may allow us to help others and be successful, but most do not.  It is not easy balancing the two, when we know having a balance is important.

To me, achieving significance is usually linked to achieving the intangible, something worthy and important that successes at the workplace will usually not get us.  For those of us that want to strengthen the intangibles, nothing without labor.

Strengthening the intangibles need a conscientious effort.  I know of friends that work hard in their summer season of their lives, retire early to spend time with loves ones and do the things they want to do.  It will be nice to know that the option is there.  If we can't strike a good balance during our career, maybe we can have better balance over our lifetime.

Success may or may not bring us happiness, and that's why many place emphasis on having a job they like.  Happiness tends to go along the path of significance.


Peter Lin, Senior Pastor of Queenstown Baptist Church; former President, Asian Operations, Mutual Liberty Group

A good friend of mine said "Life is a journey of seeking for three things - destiny (successes), love (relationships), and meaning (ultimate satisfaction)."  I agree wholeheartedly.

In my younger days, I started my first quest - seeking for success as achievements and titles.  I have been blessed. ............
As I grew older, I realized that achievements were overrated and were not lasting. The only thing that seems to remain is friendships and testimonies of touching people's lives or having been touched in return. 

I began my second quest - seeking for lasting relationships.
I realized even relationships are fleeting as life cannot be taken for granted.  There is an intangible piece of my life that is not related to achievements nor even to relationships.

In 2002, I decided to embark on this last quest for meaning and soul satisfaction.  I left the insurance sector and became a pastor.  My journey no longer leads me to limelight and recognition but rather humility and service.  I finally have a taste of the intangible satisfaction of the soul that success and significance cannot offer.


Vincent Kwo, Chief Executive Officer, Gibraltar BSN Life Bhd., Malaysia:

I had just arrived back to KL from my trip to Los Angles attending the Prudential International Insurance Convention.  It is the annual Life Planners convention where the top performers from Prudential companies around the world meet together to celebrate the success of these sales professional.  The Prudential Life Planners approach where the passion and commitment to helping families find financial securities in terms of family protection is the guiding principle for each successful Life Planners and you can feel the joy and pride when these successful Life Planners went up the stage to receive the plaque together with their family members.

So, what is success?  I would equate success to happiness.  A worldly successful person might not be happy but a happy person must be successful in life.  The worldly success is temporary and relative to others but the everlasting success in life is to achieve calmness and happiness internally.  I was reading an article on how to boost your happiness and hence your success in life:  1) Hug it out and sharing love with family, loved ones and friends.  2) Go for the flow.  It means feeling fully immersed with what you are doing - gardening, singing and even your daily office work.  3) Appreciating what you have and expressing gratitude to others.  4) Have faith in life.  A spiritual experience and be connected with something larger.  5) Joy in your daily activity in work and do exercise.  6) Sleep well at night and 7) Helping others and make the world a better place.

I would like to wish everyone a successful and happy journey in life and may you bring blessings to others.

  
Much has been said; I hope that the sharing from our colleagues has opened up your thinking and maybe sowed some seeds of wisdom in the garden of your mind.

I would like to thank all our contributors for taking time and sharing their insights and wisdom - one has written to seek clarification; another for a face to face interview; another over a lunch appointment; others need to pause and wait for insights to envelope them; while others are still seeking enlightenment.

One of our colleagues recently donated one million dollars to the cause of helping others to have a better and brighter future - an act which is commendable and displays the positive side of the human spirit.


I conclude with my parting words: To succeed in life is laudable, but to live a life of significance brings meaning and purpose.  In our relentless pursuit of success and significance, may we not forget that we are blessed and therefore in return should bless others and find our hope in lasting values so that we can say as Peter Lin puts it, "It is well with my soul".  The choices you made in the past is what you are today, but the choices you make today will determine what you are tomorrow.  Choose wisely and be blessed!

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